Concurrents: Redefining Togetherness or Why Priya Parker’s ‘The Art of Gathering’ Can Change How Our Industry Comes Together

In this digital age, the true essence of gathering has lost its significance. We’ve grown accustomed to our regular routines of meetings, school events, parties, and social events without understanding the deeper purpose behind them. Allow me to introduce Priya Parker’s “The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters,” which acts as a roadmap to the heart of human connection. 

Parker’s book is a testament to the transformative power of gatherings. Drawing from her expertise in conflict resolution and community organizing, Parker presents a compelling case for intentional gathering. She urges us to move beyond the mundane routine of scheduling meetings and hosting parties and instead embrace the art of curating experiences that leave a lasting impact on our colleagues, friends, and family. 

At the heart of Parker’s philosophy is the notion of purpose. Every gathering, she argues, should serve a distinct purpose—a shared intention that brings people together and guides the event’s trajectory. Whether it’s fostering meaningful conversations, sparking creativity, or building community, clarity of purpose is paramount in shaping the dynamics of a gathering. 

But purpose alone is not enough. Parker emphasizes the pivotal role of the host in crafting memorable experiences. A good host is not just a facilitator but a steward of the gathering—an orchestrator who sets the stage, establishes the tone, and cultivates an environment conducive to genuine connection. 

One of the most profound insights Parker offers, and one of my biggest takeaways, is the idea of embracing discomfort. In a culture that often shies away from confrontation and disagreement (please picture me raising my hand and struggling to make eye contact), Parker challenges us to lean into the discomfort, recognizing it as an opportunity for growth and deeper understanding. By creating spaces where diverse perspectives are welcomed and respected, gatherings can become catalysts for meaningful dialogue and collective insight. And isn’t that what we are always striving for, especially professionally? 

Equally important is the concept of inclusivity. Parker reminds us that genuine connection can only flourish in environments where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. This requires a conscious effort to design gatherings that are accessible, welcoming, and reflective of the diversity of human experience. 

Parker illustrates her principles throughout the book with vivid anecdotes and real-life examples, ranging from intimate dinner parties to corporate retreats. Each story serves as a testament to the profound impact that intentional gathering can have on individuals and communities alike. 

I’m struck by the potential for transformation that lies within our gatherings. What if every meeting, conference, party (dare I say happy hour!!), and webinar was infused with purpose and intentionality? What if we approached each interaction as an opportunity to deepen our connections and enrich our lives? Especially with the busy conference and event season upon us … I see you Living Future, AIA, and NeoCon … 

Parker’s book is a rallying cry for reclaiming the lost art of gathering — a call to action for hosts and participants alike to embrace the power of togetherness and rediscover the joy of shared experience. In a world that can feel too much, fragmented, and disconnected, “The Art of Gathering” offers a roadmap for rekindling human connection and forging bonds that transcend space and time.

Jen Levisen is a writer, editor, and content strategist passionate about connecting and storytelling and using both to highlight impact. She is the Director of Communications for mindful MATERIALS and hosted 2023’s Impact Icons podcast, an Imagine a Place Production. Connect with Jen (digital high-fives abound!) on LinkedIn.